There disobedient children: do not answer calls when considerably delay the fulfillment of obligations, leave things to the end. It is a behavior that ends desperate parents, who often prefer to give a shout or put a child punishment. The causes vary and although these behaviors may reflect mild emotional immaturity, staff slow pace that does not match the parent, becoming withdrawn or passivity, even excessive focus on leisure activities, may also be related to the process of growth and consequent demand assertiveness. Thus obedient children become unruly short space of time. The search for identity and autonomy leads them to question the authority of parents and ignore living standards as impositions.
How to raise a disobedient child
There must always place the cause in the child. Sometimes the problem is caused by a clearly inadequate parental educational style in which the child demands a blind obedience. Some parents confuse their family with an army in which you have to give orders that have to be implemented immediately and without question. The wanton abuse of authority has dire consequences. The rights of the child are run over and development of his/her personality is suspended.
Reflection on family dynamics can be improved warning aspects to correct children’s behavior: poor communication with the child, excessive demands, little recognition of the achievements of the child, etc. Below the inappropriate behavior of the child is a message that should reveal and often has to do with an unconscious demand attention. There are many parents who are now absorbed by the labor obligations and haste and lack sufficient time to devote to the children.
Agreement among parents to educate the child
Often one parent, if not both, adopt a lax and indulgent attitude to the whims and child transgressions. Not to upset the child is incurred complicity reinforcing. At other times, the prevailing attitude is rigid and punitive. Sometimes the negative behavior is magnified, no reproach between spouses and opt for hasty and changing actions that generate confusion in the child and, of course, do not produce the desired effects.
The agreement and harmony between parents are a necessary starting point for the management of children’s behavior, but it also needs to involve children as regards their behavior. If it is decided, for example, establish a set of rules, tasks and time, it is absolutely appropriate that, as the child grows, participate in the establishment of such a code duties; otherwise it will live as an imposition against which he/she has to rebel.
Dialogue with the disobedient child
A fundamental education spring which cannot be dispensed is dialogue. It promotes understanding between parents and children, can stimulate reflection of the child and helps the rules are met for its value for coexistence. While family communication must not be something reserved for hard times, but a common form of relationship, the truth is that it is one of the most appropriate channels in situations in which you want to promote a specific change. One aspect we cannot ignore is the relative behavior of the child to the school. There is not always similarity between what is happening at home and at school. The necessary convergence of educational standards makes it advisable consultation with teachers, to see to what extent the behavior-problem, he/she manifested in school. Often the establishment of a joint plan of action is much more effective.