According tocountless studies and articles, meeting your in-laws and maintaining a good relationship with them is a major source of stress for many couples.
In this post, you’ll learn how to make a great first impression, get ideas for what to talk about (and what to avoid bringing up!) and more.
Make An Effort With Your Wardrobe
Think of this as a cross between a job interview and a date. You want to look your best and convey a sense of stability and professionalism, but you also want to look like yourself.
Don’t go overtly sexy or too underdressed. For men, dark jeans with a suit jacket over a collared button-down is a crisp look. For women, we recommend a nice, simple dress with some statement jewelry as an accent.
Know Their Culture
If you’re marrying someone who was born in a different country, or even a different state, what’s considered polite and rude can vary greatly.
Make sure you’ve checked with your partner and done a little research on your own so you don’t accidentally offend anyone.
Especially when meeting someone for the first time, it’s important to show you’ve made an effort to understand and respect where they’re coming from.
Break The Ice
Feeling prepared will help you to relax, so it’s likely you’ve already given a lot of thought to what you should and shouldn’t say around your in-laws.
You know that, at least for a first meeting, it’s best to avoid overly controversial topics like politics or religion (especially this year, when so many people are divided.)
But what are yousupposedto talk about – without it sounding like you’re reciting your resume?
Check out this list of some of the best conversation starters to chat about with your in-laws:
- The story of how you and your partner met, or your first date
- Asking about a piece of art in the home
- Asking questions about other family members you’ve heard your partner speak highly of
- Bring up recent vacations either you or them have taken
- Ask what your partner was like as a child (parents love this one!)
- Ask to see old family photos
- Ask about movies, plays, or museum exhibits they’ve seen recently
- If you’ve traveled to meet them, ask what the top three things you can’t miss in their town are
Remember: Everyone Is Nervous
Like it or not, your in-laws will have a huge impact on the future of your marriage. They can be the cause of stress in a relationshipor the people you count on the most to help you with childcare and other important issues.
Making the right first impressionisincredibly important to your relationship, but remember: they’re likely just as nervous to meet you.
Plus, your partner may also be anxious that their parents will say something to hurt you! Above all, everyone should be on their best behavior.
Thanks to these tips, your first meeting will go off without a hitch – then, you can get hitched!